‘we all move forward when // we recognize how resilient // and striking the women // around us are.’
Women are amazing — there is no plainer way I can put it. I have been blessed to have been surrounded by a number of strong, enduring, brave, passionate, warm women so far in my life, and on International Women’s Day, I find it fitting to celebrate that. I could write a list as long as my arm of things I love about my friends; here are my top eight.
They share everything!
Going out with a group of girls with their own bags is like taking an entire emergency supply kit with you. ‘This lipstick would look so good on you, here, try some… Ooh, this pizza is so delicious, do you want a slice? You look cold, do you want my cardi?’ From tampons to dry shampoo, you never run out of anything.
They support everything you do.
Having your bestie on Snapchat is like having your own personal cheerleader in your pocket everywhere you go. Whether it’s upping your Instagram likes, leaving flame emojis in the comments of your selfies, or celebrating your new job/good grades, they’re always shaking their pompoms for you.
They encourage you to take risks.
It really goes hand in hand with the endless encouragement. My friends make me feel braver and more confident about my decisions and the actions I take. Whether I’m thinking of dyeing my hair a crazy colour, revealing a few more inches of leg or cleavage, or signing up for a fancy dress-themed bungee jump, I’m pretty sure my friends would be the ones to give me the final nudge.
They don’t care if they offend you.
Sometimes you just need to be told. You’re reeling after a failed job attempt, you haven’t showered for a few days, and you have Wotsit dust buried under your fingernails. Or maybe you’re being super mean about that girl who probably just wants to mind her own business. Your real friends will give you a much-needed kick up the backside and let you know not-too-subtly that enough is enough.
You can never gross them out.
Real friends genuinely enjoy hearing about that zit which gave you splash-back after it hit the bathroom mirror and all the gory details of what happens to your bowels during that certain time of the month. They’ll probably even one-up you by sending a video on Snapchat of them plucking out a freakishly long ingrown hair (true story).
One word: R E L A T I O N S H I P S.
If you’ve been in romantic relationships and have never encountered any kind of issue or emotional trauma, then you are one lucky son of a gun. Your girls know how it is. Boys (and girls, and everyone in between) can be anything from a bit crap to downright horrific at times, and chances are you’ll need a proof-reader, a pizza guy, and a fellow goddess to get you back on track. Your bestie is all those things rolled up into one deliciously cute cinnamon bun.
Living with your best girlfriend is the most fun you will ever have.
From stumbling in drunk at 3:00 AM with cheesy chips and chip spice (it’s a Hull thing and you need it in your life), to curling up on the sofa to watch the soaps, to having impromptu sleepovers in each other’s rooms, I cherish every moment from my third year of university living with Cait. She’d kick me out of bed when I was too scared to go to my lectures, she’d bring me cups of tea and biscuits when I was neck-deep in essay-writing, and we’d communicate through the bathroom wall when one of us got bored on the toilet. Weird, I know, but I miss it.
You’re never on your own.
Even if you want to be, for a while. You can be in the depths of despair and your bestie will only ever be on the other end of the phone, and that’s good to know, even when you want to be alone. You’ll always have someone to do something stupid with, a partner in crime, and let’s be honest, singing in the car always sounds better with her (maybe less-than-tuneful) harmonies!
What’s your favourite thing about your best friend?